Sex and Disability

Becoming disabled can be a traumatic event, especially if it occurs suddenly, and without warning.  Your whole world turns topsy-turvy, and you find yourself bouncing back and forth between learning how to cope and finding treatment.  Sometimes the most complicated change is learning how to have sex all over again.

One of the most common questions asked upon learning of a disability is “will I still be able to have sex, or have children?”  Sometimes patients wonder if anyone will ever find them attractive again.  Self esteem, the most powerful positive tool in a sexual relationship, could be shattered by a traumatic event.

Communication is always the most important first step toward finding yourself sexually after trauma.  Communication with your physical therapist, your doctor, and especially your sexual partner are all extremely important for maintaining your sex life.  There are many disability resources available for handling a handicap, either online, or at your local library.  The important thing is to not ignore any problems that might come up.  Deal with any issues that may arise right then and there, or, failing that, acknowledge them so that there’s no unspoken tension between you and your partner.

Sometimes overcoming your disability is as simple as learning a new way of doing things.  A good physical therapist should be teaching you new methods of getting dressed, tying your shoes, or even eating a meal.  A good sexual partner should be helping you learn how to have sex again.  Sometimes the answer is as simple as trying out a new position.  Challenging your preconceived notions of the way things are supposed to work or what’s “normal,” is a good place to start.  If the trouble is more deep seated than that, then Viagra or Womera could help restore some lost vitality.  Both are available together as a  ED trial pack.

If you need more help, remember to take things slow, and that patience is your most important asset.  Speak to your general practitioner or a sex therapist for help dealing with your unique situation.